Tuesday, February 17, 2009

A Washington Valentine


Valentines Day in Washington, I was as much looking forward to laying a smooch on the city I've grown to love over the past six months as I was on my own (human) sweetheart. Spending the most romantic day of the year in the place, which Mark Twain called a, " grand old benevolent National Asylum for the helpless," in the looming presence of greater men and their marble tombs, may not appear the most passionate of notions to many, but in reading the suggestions of DC based blogs in the days leading up to V-Day showed a side of the city that may not be overly apparent to those who come and go through the seasons, and see the city as nothing more than a place of policy and law.

The Washingtonian had arguably the most inspired article, as writer Catherine Andrews wrote of the best places to "pucker up" in Capitol City. My personal favorite had to be the Alexandria waterfront , which is both a relaxing and beautiful place to leave behind the pulse of center city for a while, but also a historical locale. In the grand scheme of it all, it wasn't too long ago that Washington himself piloted down the Potomac to his home of Mount Vernon. This historical entwining is something Washington played upon greatly this past weekend, as the city found itself in the midst of three significant celebrations: V-Day, President's Day and the Lincoln bicentennial. 
Bloggers found themselves in the at the same crossroads of revelation, and alternated between their coverage of passionate adventures, as well as special events unfolding within DC's museum community. The Smithsonian seized upon the opportunity to mark all three holidays, and to the delight of onlookers, created the much buzzed about presidential cupcake portrait. Made of around 5,600 of the treats, the exhibit was then de-installed by the sweet-toothed masses.

Before the cliched, yet always thrilling dinner and movie later on at night, on Valentines Day, I first made my own pilgramage to the Newseum's weekend festivities. My foreplay for the romantic events later on in the evening was the sensual presentation of James L. Swanson, author of New York Times bestseller "Manhunt," which details the 12 day search for John Wilkes Booth after his assassination of Lincoln. At the end of his speech, Swanson sat down in the TV/Radio gallery of the Newseum to do a book signing. By the time I got to the front of the line, I couldn't envision anything sexier than talking dirty about presidential assassinations all night long with the 50 year old author. 
Do I turn you on, baby?

What can I say? I guess I have a American history fetish. Luckily, there's no better place to deal with my addiction than the city in which I'm currently living. I dare you to find a place in the District that didn't once see the footsteps of an American hero. My favorite event of the weekend however, would have to be the annual Presidents' Race at RFK Stadium, where enthusiastic mascots don the giant heads of Washington, Lincoln and Jefferson, and make a mad dash for the finish line. While this year's went without incident (relatively speaking- the whole thing could be called one), last year's tryouts saw a rather humorous wipeout on the part of ol' TJ:

                               
Did I mention how much I love this city? 

Vday: Sounds Like the Invasion of Normandy, Doesn't It?

By Spencer Siegel

Oh, it's that time of year again. The scent of fresh flowers as you walk into the grocery store. Fancy chocolates in every store window that you pass on your way to work. Television ads about the cutest couples that reaffirm their love for one another.

And it all sickens me.

Yes, it is Valentine's Day. Vday is horrible regardless of your Facebook relationship status. This Valentine's Day I'm single. Last year I was in a relationship. It was pretty bad both time. This year I felt like Saint Valentine was slapping me in the face and last year I felt like I had to stage a major performance.

So what is Valentine's Day all about then? Some argue that its a festival of love. Other, more cynical, commentators (such as myself) would argue that it is a holiday created by big business to increase sales between Christmas and Easter. But it gets worse, much worse. For perhaps the first time Valentine's Day has been politicized. Yes, the GOP has claimed Vday as theirs (for fundraising purposes of course). For a measly $4,281 a person you can now take your lover on a 10 day cruise with John Ashcroft and Tom Tancredo (I'm not joking, see the picture to the right. Click on it to enlarge). I can see it now: John Ashcroft, the same person who opposed the Equal Rights Amendment and filed a lawsuit against the National Organization of Women, is somehow going to just "wow" your significant other. Maybe he'll even treat you to some gitmo torture. Who knows. But I digress.

Let's discuss some of the impacts Valentine's Day has and why I believe that any rational couple ought to ignore it even exists. Vday trivializes our notions of love and breeds unhealthy relationships. How so? Vday tells us that out of the 365 days of the year your love ought to be measured by your actions on this one particular day. I'm no expert when it comes to relationships (see my ex's on that one) but I'd venture to say that your love ought to be measured by your actions on all of those 365 days. If you're just unable to be spontaneous and go out for dinner on a whim then at least do something special on a day that actual has meaning for you. Like your anniversary, or your birthday (or the day your child was born out of wedlock). Those days actually have meaning in your relationship because they signify something personal and unique. And I might add, if your anniversary is Valentine's Day it just means you are the biggest Vday sucker I've ever met. You could have waited a day to ask her out. And if its your birthday... well then I just feel incredibly bad for you.

That previous paragraph is one reason why I love this blog post and this web site.

But I think there is another problem with Valentine's Day. Nobody really knows what this holiday is about. People know that Christmas has to do with Jesus (I'm Jewish and I know that) and they know that Passover has to do with Moses freeing the slaves from the Egyptians (and if you didn't know that then you learned something new today courtesy of your Jewish friend). So I did some research on Vday to find out:

Circa 270 AD: Emperor Claudius II bans marriages because he needs soldiers and figures that single men can fight better (as it turns out, married men were the ones who wanted to get away).

A third century priest named Valentine didn't really like what was going on. So he started performing illegal marriages (this was wayyy before illegal marriages became all the rage: see San Francisco).

Needless to say, Valentine got thrown in jail. But, as often is the case when incarcerated, our priest met a blind woman and miraculously healed her blindness. Before Valentine was executed he wrote a farewell message to the formerly-blind woman and signed it "from your valentine."

This miracle (that we all know the Vatican 'proved') paved the way to Sainthood. Saint Valentine became the inspiration for horny Roman boys to create a festival where they wrote affectionate greetings to girls they wished to marry (read: enslave). This went on for 1700+ years until St. Hallmark decided they could make a few bucks by folding some paper and writing witty comments that normal guys were too dumb to come up with.

My point is: I don't know if that actually all happened or not. But it's all I could find online. If the Internet doesn't know where Vday came from how am I expected to figure that out? Yeah, I'm not. We celebrate holidays because they have meaning. Vday has no meaning. One website said it was a fertility festival (read: men impregnating women).

Let's just do everyone a favor and stop celebrating a holiday that only stuffs the coffers of Corporate America.

Monday, February 16, 2009

I have never been a fan of Valentine’s Day and I don’t ever expect that to change. Even now, currently engaged in a healthy relationship that has spanned over the past two years, my disdain for the Hallmark holiday is equally as strong as it was in the fifth grade- a moment of time in which it seemed that the affection and care by a member of the opposite sex was limited to the sphere of my immediate family. And so while my circumstances have changed, my feelings remain the same. I’m not familiar with the origins and rise of this popular occasion, nor do I have the inclination or care to alter my ignorance. I have more pressing topics of interest to surf on wikipedia.

I’m not comfortable with the idea of forming a day in which society conforms and recognizes something so artificial- not love, but forcing people to feel as if they need to have intimate love in order to maintain normalcy. The whole damn thing is just polarizing, emotionally and commercially pressing individuals to break off in to haves and have-nots, encouraging behavior outside of their own status quo. We have plenty of that already.

While my feelings on this matter are quite clear, I don’t tend to think about this subject all too often. Granted, this “holiday” is once-a-year, but there have been times in which the only reason I knew it was going on was due to receiving a nice, little “I love you” card from my grandparents. And while I appreciate their love and thoughts, such a gesture would be perfectly appropriate and appreciated on any other of the 364 days of the year.

And because of that, I’m not going to encourage these thoughts anymore, these lines of obnoxious dialog that deal with something that truthfully remains ultimately insignificant. I’m just going to do what I normally do when something minor is bothersome- ignore it.

- Justin Ellis

Sunday, February 15, 2009

This Valentines Day, remember Obama is for lovers...



By: Kate Pinkerton

I could write about the normal Valentines Day woes- some people who have significant others love the holiday and the extra special moments they can have together because of it, or the other couples who hate the pressure the holiday puts on people to show their feelings, and then there's all the singles out there that may or may not like the holiday, but it definitely reminds them of their status. However, I saw an article in the Food section of the Washington Post that sparked my interest- there was a whole article about where the Obama's might spend their Valentines Day dinner in DC, and recommendations from the staff. Well, whether or not the Obama's plan to go any of those, I'm really excited about the recommendations they made! Hey, if Obama can eat there, I should be able to- on a very very special occasion at their prices.

For example, Firefly, a restaurant in NW DC, was mentioned on the list of possiblities. Soon after, the Eagle released an article about a website giving you coupons and specials for restaurants and stores- like Firefly! It seems like fate to me. I definitely plan on trying this restaurant some day (apparently there are candlelit lanterns!) Honestly, that's where I would have chosen to go for Valentines Day.

...however, The Washington Post got a little uppity with its predictions. The Obama's didn't even stay in DC for Valentines Day! They went home to Chicago and this fact was advertised everywhere (including the Post). Apparently they went to Table 52 in Chicago (owned by Oprah's former chef! cool!) The menu doesn't seem too ridiculous...entrees are $20-$40. For the President of the United States, that seems very rational compared to what outlandish things he could be doing. I guess since a lot of America is struggling right now, he wants to make the effort and show that he's not like the big time CEOs who spend spend spend even when they're companies were going downhill.

Well on top of all this big time paper word about the OBama Valentine Dinner, there are blogs out there tracking where they eat! Obama Foodarama was one of the first hits on my search to find the Post article I had seen. It tracked their Valentines Day dinner along with many other meals they eat. I could eat like Obama if I wanted to (and had the money!)

~My thoughts on Vday~

Honestly, my opinion on Valentine's Day changes all the time. At one point, I get mad thinking that this holiday was created for consumerism, but personally, I would want someone to have roses and chocolates sent to me too. I feel like that if someone loves you, they should show it 24/7, but it is nice to have a special day. So basically, back and forth, back and forth lol.

The most ridiculous time for Valentines Day was high school. I don't know about your schools, but at mine, it was the "thing" to do to have roses sent to school Valentines Day, and if you didn't get one, OBVIOUSLY no one loves you. It was horrible because whether or not you got one still sucked. If you didn't get one, you felt like no one loved you, but if you did, there was so much attention that it was embarassing. Also, taking a bouquet/vase of roses onto a school bus? Not fun.

All in all, I think the Obama's did it right. Personally, I'm a fan of food... and you have to eat, right? I think the ideal Valentines Day would be spent either cooking a great meal together, or going out to a nice restaurant (*cough cough* FIREFLY anyone? *cough cough*). It's something that you can both enjoy, and share, and love...

14.7 Billion

Brian Galm

Valentine’s Day, a day of love? Consumerism? Or bullshit? Who ever said that there should be a day generated for someone to say ‘I love you,’ must have been an executive at Hallmark. To be honest though, why? It is a day that makes people feel bad for themselves when they are alone, while some feel the pressure, and hype up the holiday from hell. If you had a significant other and you bought them the cliché gifts, such as chocolates, a necklace, flowers, a card, that stuff adds up quickly.

Also, with the economy in the crapper right now, people would think to spend less but.....

Even as the economy crumbles, today's relatively tame Valentine's Day celebration is expected to generate some $14.7 billion in retail sales in the United States.

Recession? nahh....

Here is where most people would find their gifts for their significant others.

How much would you spend on flowers?
1-800-FLOWERS

Wouldn't a Hershey bar do the trick?
Godiva

I can always win a necklace from a vending machine, right?
Jared

After looking at multiple blogs like the Huffington Post, I feel like the holiday is a bunch of bull. People feel pressured into doing/buying/spending too much for their significant other. People want to out do each other and quite frankly one’s love is more important than any other thing. Another thing I noticed, is most blogs post lists. Lists about, “9 ways to improve your love life” or “5 things a man should know about a woman.” These lists are just pointless and cannot help define a relationship. Every relationship is different and goes in a different direction.

Bottom line: Valentine’s Day means nothing. If you love a person, it does not have to be told in gifts or the amount you spend. Love is about loving the person for who they are.

The next holiday to look forward is St. Patty’s Day! Let the chugging begin.

Valentine's Day=Love

By Alissa Scheller

A couple of weeks ago, I watched this video about California’s recently passed Proposition 8, which bans same-sex marriage. The deadline for signing the attached letter to the Supreme Court, asking them to invalidate Proposition 8 was February 14, Valentine’s Day (the deadline has been extended to March 2). The video was all over feminist blogs such as Bitch Magazine, feministing.com and Feministe. Since Valentine’s Day is your typical heteronormative, heterosexist holiday (seriously, just look at this J.C. Penny ad), it’s nice to see people using media to try to do something that is beneficial for many people, instead of using it to advocate rampant consumerism on this horrendously consumerist holiday. Hallmark also got in on the love, which is cool.